Sunday, December 19, 2004

Dealing with unwanted suitors...kid style

Ha! Why didn't I know this before....neato answers delivered with neato precision. With all honesty and panache - and no illwill towards anyone. True kid style.

I'll present the full story scene by scene for clarity. The initial scenes feature Kamala (my now 6 and then 4-year-old kid) and Billy, her classmate. Billy is a sweet kid whose face lights up the minute he sees me dropping Kamala off at their pre-school. Usually runs over to her and gives her a welcoming hug.

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Scene I: Place - Little Angels Montessori
Time: 2 years ago
People: 4 year old Kamala, and Billy, a classmate
Setting: Playground, with Pre-Kindergarteners playing

Kamala: Ok Billy, we have a sandcastle now. Place this rock on the top. Yes....yes, like that. This is a lighthouse now, see Billy?

Billy: (quiet, not saying anything)

Kamala: Billllyyy, hey!! Are you listening to me? Stop staring at me, okaaay?

Billy: (says nothing)

Kamala: (a little angry) Hey Billy, I said okaaaay?

Billy: Ok, ok....(finishes sandcastle. Then suddenly looking up) Hey Kamala, will you marry me?

Kamala: (is taken aback but manages to retain her poise) Ummmm....I don't know. Lemme think about it. Ok, sandcastle game over - let's go play on the monkey bars.

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Scene II: Setting - Home
Time: that evening

Kamala: (finishing milk and wiping mouth) Amma, you know what happened in school today?

Me: No. What happened?

kamala: Billy asked me to marry him.

Me: (trying hard not to burst into laughter) Is that so? Hmmm. That's interesting..... What did you tell him?

Kamala: I don't know what to say - so I told him I'll think about it.

Me: (suppressing a smile) Mmhmm. Are you thinking about it now?

Kamala: Nah. (waves it off) I tried, but its boring. Can I go get my coloring books now??

Me: Ok.

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Scene III: Setting - home
Time - next day - bedtime.

I finish reading Kamala a story. Then remember Billy.

Me: Hey Kamala, what happened to Billy?

Kamala: You mean you know he got into trouble?

Me: He did? No, I don't know that.... About your marrying him....(nudge her, and smile) what did you say?

Kamala: (shrugs) Oh, I just told him he's not Indian so I cannot marry him.

Me: I see. That's interesting.....Was he sad?

Kamala: I don't know....he just walked away. But he bit Robert who tried to play with me and got in trouble with the teacher for that.

Me: Huh....Didn't know he bites kids. (a little concerned) Does he ever bite you?

Kamala: No...Sigh! You see Amma, this Billy is a little weird....Bites any boy who comes to play with me, ugh!....But he plays nice with me.

(Aha! A jealous suitor.....very interesting. I smile to myself, switch off the lights and go to sleep)

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Scene IV: Time - two years later. A weekday evening, last week
Place - home
People: 6 year old Kamala, and me

Kamala: Amma, this Amar is annoying me.

Me: Why?

Kamala: He says he wants to marry me. Uggghhhh! This keeps happening to me again and again. Last week Mark wanted to marry me....and now Amar. I don't want to marry anyone. Why don't they leave me alone, ughhh!

Me: (trying not to smile) Its ok, Kamala. He's just teasing you. Don't mind him.

Kamala: But he keeps on saying that. Ughhh!

Me: (smiling) Kamala, just change the subject and go play on the slide or something.

Kamala: (thoughtfully) Okay.

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Scene V: Time - next day evening
Place - home

Kamala: Amma, listen. I tried to ignore Amar but he won't quit bothering me.

Me: (absently) Hmmm, what about?

Kamala: I told you - he wants to marry me.

Me: (fully alert now) When did he say that?

Kamala: When we played with some dolls at recess.

Me: Well, ask him to marry one of the dolls and leave you alone! Haha!

Kamala: (impatiently) The dolls are my children, ammaaa! He says he's my husband and the babies are his kids too.

Me: Hmmm.....maybe he just wants to play with those dolls.....hey, you know what? He can be something else. Say, their pediatrician - like your Dr.Sinha.

Kamala: I told him that already, ok? He says he's the kids' father and their doctor. Ugh!!!

Me: Hmmmm. That's a difficult one.....Maybe he wants to play with the dolls as much as you. Ok, how about he being the teacher for the dolls? Or the principal, maybe?

Kamala: Ugh! Everytime I say something like that he says I'm that and the dolls father...I was really mad today. Anything I say and he adds and the father - ugh, ugh, ugh!!

Me: Oh...well! (suddenly getting an idea) You know what? He can't be the pediatrician and the father.

Kamala: Why not?

Me: Because doctors can't prescribe medicine for their own kids...

Kamala: Why?

Me: It's complicated - you see, they may get too worried and give the wrong medicine or something....so they have that rule. So the doctor's kids always go to another doctor.

Kamala: I don't get it.

Me: Sigh! Kamala...just tell him that, okay? Amma has other stuff to do kanna, so run along and play!

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Scene VII: Time - next evening, as we are finishing dinner at home

Me: So what happened to Amar?

Kamala: Huh?

Me: About the dolls..... did he agree to be their doctor or no?

Kamala: Sigh! I told him that - but he kept saying (makes a face) and the father. Ugh!

Me: So?

Kamala: (shrugs, and gets up to wash hands) I told him we're divorced.

Me: ?????!!!!

(aside: didn't I say 'neato delivery'? Where do kids learn to talk like that?)

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